I am not really sure why but too many people today are hitting, fighting and even killing each other over something someone said. Yes, that is correct, something that someone said is causing people to fight, hit, injure, hurt or murder someone else over a word. I have never in my life became mad over something someone said to me. Why? Because I know that the only reason someone is saying this {like calling my mother a whore or my wife a slut or whatever insult you can imagine} is because they are trying TO get me mad, and if I get mad then they win. This all started years ago, back when I was 19 in Miami I was drinking in a bar and some guy I never seen before started going off saying my mother was a whore, a slut, a prost, a tramp, a skank and she sucked him off last night. At that point I said to myself.. "This guy does not know me or my mother, why is he saying this to me? For a brief instant I thought about tearing his head off, then I turned it around on him." So I laughed and responded with "why, did she charge you too much or not enough?" And sure enough, that response got him mad, I guess that by not sinking to his level, or being the bigger man, or turning the other cheek, {or whatever lame saying you want to use} made him mad because I would not get mad. That is when I knew that no one will ever control my emotions by the use of a word, words are not weapons unless YOU let them be.
How can a word hurt you? Think about this, I mean really think about it. I understand how a word can make someone mad, but I do not get why the person allows the word to get them mad. "You have an ugly baby", "your mother is a crack whore", "your wife blew me and my bowling team last night", "your daughter is a slut"........... It is almost comical if you think about it. It seems that more people today are fixated on what other people think about them or their families. Who cares? Really, who cares? If this person really thinks your baby is ugly that is their opinion. Will you getting mad change their opinion? Will you beating them up, stabbing or shooting them change their opinion? No! It will cause you to ruin your life, the life of your child and the lives of both families. Is it really worth it? Is it your honor, your pride, your ego? No, it is stupidity. So why do people still do it? think about it, would anyone reading this be able to laugh at a stranger and walk away after they said any of the comments I mentioned to you? I really hope so. I read about people killing over being dropped as face book friends, I read the hoopla over some moron on the radio calling a college girl a slut or a nappy headed ho. Why are mere words so powerful that they can cause so much ruckus and generate so many hateful opinions from the masses? Is it mob mentality, are we that consumed with what other people think or are we thinking about how we would feel if it were us being called a name? How is it going to change our lives? If someone makes fun of the way you dress are you going to run home and change? That is the beauty about being an individual, everyone is different and has different tastes, everyone has a different view of what a pretty girl should look like or what makes her sexy. Since we are all so different and beauty is in the eye of the beholder why do we get mad {sometimes mad enough to injure or kill} when another individual does not find the same thing as we do acceptable?
I know back in the day whole families would feud for generations like the Hatfield and McCoys, people would duel with swords or pistols at 10 paces if you dishonored them. Thankfully we stopped all that madness and became more civilized, now it seems like we are reading more and more about people being attacked or killed because someone insulted them or dropped them as a friend from a social website. Are we that desperate to fit in, to be accepted? We want to be individuals but are finding it hard to deal with when we do not fit in with everyone else, almost like an internal conflict of interest. Maybe people are finding it hard to deal with a constant barrage of technology, it used to be it took awhile for the word to spread. Today with all the social networks and cell phones and texting what you say about somebody can spread very fast, "Jim said you were a dipshit." "Mary told me you kissed my boyfriend." It used to be you would hear this the next day or at the very least if someone called you at home and told you what they heard or seen. Now a days you find this info out right away and since the word spreads so fast there is no longer a "cooling off" period that we used to have when we were in school, it would take a full day or sometimes a weekend before you could confront someone but today you can instantly respond before you have a chance to think about what you want to do or say to that person. Jumping into something without thinking it through is always a bad move no matter what it involves, from impulse buying or shopping to confronting someone.
I know back in the day whole families would feud for generations like the Hatfield and McCoys, people would duel with swords or pistols at 10 paces if you dishonored them. Thankfully we stopped all that madness and became more civilized, now it seems like we are reading more and more about people being attacked or killed because someone insulted them or dropped them as a friend from a social website. Are we that desperate to fit in, to be accepted? We want to be individuals but are finding it hard to deal with when we do not fit in with everyone else, almost like an internal conflict of interest. Maybe people are finding it hard to deal with a constant barrage of technology, it used to be it took awhile for the word to spread. Today with all the social networks and cell phones and texting what you say about somebody can spread very fast, "Jim said you were a dipshit." "Mary told me you kissed my boyfriend." It used to be you would hear this the next day or at the very least if someone called you at home and told you what they heard or seen. Now a days you find this info out right away and since the word spreads so fast there is no longer a "cooling off" period that we used to have when we were in school, it would take a full day or sometimes a weekend before you could confront someone but today you can instantly respond before you have a chance to think about what you want to do or say to that person. Jumping into something without thinking it through is always a bad move no matter what it involves, from impulse buying or shopping to confronting someone.
Maybe one day we will adjust, most of us were raised without all this technology and have to learn how things have changed from when we were growing up. Computers and technologies are kind of a responsibility and because it is fairly new to us we have to learn as we go. The Internet is in it's teenage years and still quite young, hopefully the next generation will grow up to handle it better then we are today because they will have in their lives from day one, kids born today or entering school today will always have computers. Until then we will have to deal with the changes best we can, we do not understand what our kids are going through at school because we never had to deal with these problems just as our parents could not understand what we were going through. We have to learn ourselves and try to teach our kids that what someone says is only an opinion and not everyone sees the same thing, we cannot use threats or brut force to make others see things our way just as we would resist someone trying to force us to see things their way. A simple word is not a weapon, it cannot make you bleed or break your leg or pick your pocket, it can only hurt you if you let it hurt you, I guess the old saying of "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me" has changed, today we LET names hurt us.
